Not asking questions...

MaiLi,

Thanks for posting your story...you are very brave to have done so.

I wanted to jump in regarding "not asking questions". I had an abortion about 4 years ago in a really respected clinic. One of the MANY things that struck me about it was that they start drugging you the moment you arrive and there are many different stages...a short interview, go into this room, sit for sometime etc. By the time I was in the operation theatre ready for the procedure I was so drugged that I couldn't speak. I wanted to ask questions but couldn't. The doctor came in and called me by the wrong name, which was very distressing for me, I used every bit of effort in me to correct him, but nothing came out.

Afterwards in the recovery room, a small group of us, in a circle all facing one-another (which I thought bizarre), one woman said, "in my next life I'm going to be a man!". So funny that it WASN'T!!!

Anyway, I have a retroverted uterus, which they seemed to know, however the abortion was incomplete, which meant that there was still tissue inside. I bled for 6 weeks afterward and the clinic, despite many calls by me, refused to admit that anything was wrong. I ended up in the ER and had to have a D&C. I've kept this overwhelming thought in my mind that the child held on and that it's will to live was stronger than mine! This is just what stuck with me.

I should also say that the experience has deeply changed my feelings about abortion. I am still very pro-choice, however I don't think I would ever have an abortion again.

Anyway, I'm glad this forum is here. It does help women to talk about this.

Sorry for being anonymous!
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MaiLi,

Thanks for posting your story...you are very brave to have done so.

I wanted to jump in regarding "not asking questions". I had an abortion about 4 years ago in a really respected clinic. One of the MANY things that struck me about it was that they start drugging you the moment you arrive and there are many different stages...a short interview, go into this room, sit for sometime etc. By the time I was in the operation theatre ready for the procedure I was so drugged that I couldn't speak. I wanted to ask questions but couldn't. The doctor came in and called me by the wrong name, which was very distressing for me, I used every bit of effort in me to correct him, but nothing came out.

Afterwards in the recovery room, a small group of us, in a circle all facing one-another (which I thought bizarre), one woman said, "in my next life I'm going to be a man!". So funny that it WASN'T!!!

Anyway, I have a retroverted uterus, which they seemed to know, however the abortion was incomplete, which meant that there was still tissue inside. I bled for 6 weeks afterward and the clinic, despite many calls by me, refused to admit that anything was wrong. I ended up in the ER and had to have a D&C. I've kept this overwhelming thought in my mind that the child held on and that it's will to live was stronger than mine! This is just what stuck with me.

Anyway, I'm glad this forum is here. It does help women to talk about this.

Sorry for being anonymous! Tweet