Thank you kruppaclassy.

You said "And passing out the baby/fetus itself and holding it would be extrememly shocking. Shock stops the brain from functioning as normal, so the questions just wouldn't have come. Don't let what you didn't have control over eat you up or cause unrest. What happened happened, and how you deal with it is your own private choice."
Yes, holding that baby - it was appreciably heavy, fully formed and no way just a fetus - was and still is the most shocking memory.
I appreciate what you told me about why the questions wouldn't come. Tweet