I am not condoning the behaviour. I read a few responses to her question and I was simply tryng to let others know that pressure is not the way to go. I, too, have struggled with an ED. It is a destructive thing. I was not judging anyone's credentials on handing out advice, but what I read would NOT have made me want to eat. Only compassionate advice and a friend that didn't pass judgement on me (and a lot of counseling) has helped. As you know it is only a destructive behaviour, but it makes a girl reclusive as well when everyone is telling her the same old thing and not getting through. A year is a fairly long time to have been ana, and I think that she probably isn't just toying with the idea. But would you have listened to someone if they seemed condemning or patronizing? I just feel that it is a tricky thing giving advice to someone with an ED. Sorry if I happened to sound harsh myself, but, having been there myself, I felt impulsively defensive. It's not her fault. It's not something she can just stop. As with smoking, the "cold-turkey" approach rarely works.