"Last night I made her dinner and cared a pumpkin that said "I *heart* you" on it, and she loved it, but I got nothing for it. The other night she wasnt feeling good so I gave her a body massage and got nothing for it."
Seriously not trying to be an ass or anything, but it seems like sex is the most important to you out of the relationship. (she wasn't feeling good, don't think that you can give her a massage and get laid for it)
"and I cant just enjoy being with her becasue its always on my mind"
Furthering my diagnosis...
Maybe the two of you should take a break from eachother? What are your priorities?