I think what I was potraying didn't come out just right. I don't mean that you have to be happy all the time, it just isn't possible in this world. What I meant was don't let the stupid stuff get you down, the stuff that you have no control over.
Definately when you have a mate, they shouldn't mind helping you to get over some bumps in life, that is natural and what love is. Love is there for the good and bad.
Having said that, if the bad out weighs the good, then I can see it being overwhelming.
Blessings to you, and by all means if you don't think there is any hope for the two of you, give all her belongings back to her and enjoy life.