It does bother me that guys like it hard and fast, but I find now, that since I have found the one I love sex is slower and we both enjoy it a lot. Maybe it depends on all other kinds of chemistry, past boyfriends of mine didn't totally connect with me as a friend and companion, just a hot boyfirnd, but since I met Jack, it's been better. I feel like sex all the time, and I like to arouse him more than just before sex, like in the morning, it kind of creates build up during the day, he spends all day looking forward to what he knows is coming, so I think he likes it to last.