my husband is a sweetheart and never forces me to have anal sex with him. he actually doesn't even ask for it because he knows that it hurts me (even though I am convinced he has no idea of exactly how MUCH it hurts me - it's horrible) but i know that he likes it so of course i want to do it for him every once in a while if i can - but i can't! we've never had "successful" anal sex. he's never even gotten his penis all the way in. he's been with people who he could easily do this with though... so i feel insecure and bad because i cant do it... even though i know that he doesnt care. so is there anyone out there (male or female) who is on the receiving end of anal sex and started out like me with horrible pain but figured out a great way to do it so it's actually pain free and pleasurable? or do i need to just accept that i am a person who shouldn't have anal sex? thank you!!!