Let's play like my parents raised me up horribly. For all my life they hated me, neglected me, verbally abused me, taught me nothing but wrong, protected me none, gave me every tool I needed to become a criminal and an abuser. NOW...I certainly wouldn't give two shits about PLEASING my parents. BUT...I would still want to get a good job, get an education, maybe get married, have a nice family, be responsible, etc FOR MYSELF!!! I would want to make myself proud of who I became! I would want to show my appreciation for life and for anybody at all who reached out to me despite of who my parents were. I would still want to do right in my own eyes...as opposed to going out and screwing my life up just like their's-- say by getting myself addicted to heroine or cocaine. It's not a "fear" thing. It's a "love" thing. LOVE makes you do the right thing sometimes! It's a great concept. YOU really should think about it. Love yourself. Love other people. Not just because somebody did it to you first but because it is naturally in our hearts.