Hi Melanie, I disagree with (cleansoul). We do need some one else to complete us. It took 2 people to "complete me", Or...., To concieve me. If we never "needed" some one else's love, There would be no one standing on this planet, As...., There would be no more children. It's ok to hurt right now, If you love him, You are going to hurt. I know how bad this feeling is, Because my girl just left me, And took her 3 yr old little girl, And 5 yr old little boy. I loved them with all my heart, Now....they are gone. It's an hour at a time right now, I can not imangine the future without them, But.......,They are gone, Not coming back. My expierience as to when I have been "left behind", Is this. I have been left 3 times in my life. The first 2 made up all kinds of excuse's, But they left me for other guys. The last girl, Left me for church, After my suggestion that we grow closer to God. She left, Went to church by herself,Came back, Said that I was not "equally yoked to her". I wished I had some sort of infinite wisdom I could bestow on you now, Because, Believe me...., I know how you feel. All I can say is this, It's ok to hurt bad, That only means that you took your relationship seriously, As it was meant to be. It only means that you Loved him, As it was meant to be. If you get over this in a short period of time, I would say you never really loved him. When they leave us, And don't look back, Have no regrets....., Well.........., Guess they never really loved us. Pretty simple really, when you stop and look at it. You are hurt, I'm impressed with you! That means you loved him, Thats good. If he loves you, He is hurting now, If he is not, He never loved you. Say lot's of prayers that he will come back, At the same time realizing he may not. If he doe's not, He did not love you as you need to be loved. After the pain goe's away, You will meet some one that loves you as you need to be loved. It's a long road to travel, I am on that road now, But....., We will make it. Thank you Melanie for your post, It was nice to respond to your letter, It was a way for me to release about my sorrow. You will be ok, You hang in there.............Bob.