Well said. You are a God fearing man. I will pray for your wife. Where there may be no reconciliation, there is healing. Your wife needs the love of Christ as much as anyone. She is wrong, but she is hurting too. God knows this hurt you both have, it's not what he wants. My dream was just a dream, but what I am saying is truth. God created you and he created your wife, he saw the mistakes you would make and the mistakes she would make. He has accounted for all of them and he has a plan. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you." Don't hesitate brother! SEEK. When you seek to bring God's kingdom, you are going to find love. Love is the only thing that keeps me going. God is the only one who will bring you true love, in which the love for a spouse is what it is truely desired to be. It's because God is Love.
Be of good cheer, God will bless you and I will pray fervently for your situation. Always look to Father!