I had a dream last night. I have never had such a dream before, but for some reason after reading your post I am inclined to share it with you.
I heard a couple fighting. The woman was crying and yelling "I am really not sure I want to be married to you any more" and the man was saying "To hell if I care, we don't do anything but fight anymore" I came between them and asked if I might be a refery. It was all strange, but I said to the woman, "May I ask you a question?" and she said "Yes" and I said "Do you remember how it used to be, when you were first married?" and she said "Yes, it was wonderful, we loved each other then" and I said "Sir, do you really want to give up that happiness" and he said "What happiness? It is gone. We lost it." and I said "Sir, things which are lost can be found. What if I told you where you can find this thing which you've lost" and he said "but it is to late we have nothing left, I will just find someone else." I then turned to the woman and back to the man. "She is your wife. Would you forsake her? The wife of your youth?" he couldn't look me in the eye. I said the same thing several times. "She is your wife, but she is your wife... Your wife.." Then the dream shifted slightly. I said a few more words of "happiness is where it always has been, not in finding what you think you desire, but in desiring that which you already have." and they both told me what they wanted, it was the same thing. I don't know what it was really. There wasn't a word for it. It wasn't "Try" or "No" or anything like that, but it was more like they weren't giving up, they were letting go.
I don't know why I had that dream, but I do know you have a choice. If I ask you "What is love?" You will not know. If I ask you "What is desire?" You will know, If I ask you "What is Happiness?" you might know, but I will not ask you those, I ask you "What is true?"
My best freind now, whom I thought I loved once said "Everybody has a choice and you have to make one some time. Even not making a choice is making a choice, ya know? Good luck." I don't think I love anymore, I know I love, because a friend is not desire, it is a sacrifice.