Hi I need some advice. I am male and have been married for the past 25 years. I have two teenagers. My problem - My wife is Physically and Verbaly abusive to me and has been for many years. We have been going to marriage counseling for the past 6 years. Her idea of going to counseling is that she should tell the counselor what I do wrong and the counselor should tell me how to correct my behaviour. She regulary starts aguments for no apperant reason. The fights are in front of the children. She is on anti depresents and has tendencies of a maniac depresent. She does not work and stays home lying on the bed, watching tv, or playing computer games. I should have left her a long time ago however I will not leave my children, they are way too inportant to me and I will sacrafice anything for them. I care for my wife so very much but she will not seek help. I was raised in a home where my father abused my mother. For that reason for a long time just put up with what happened to me with my wife. I plan on divorcing her once the children are adults and our relationship does not so badly effect their daily life. Now to add to the confusion in my mind I met a woman about a year ago whom I have very deep feelings for she also has the same feelings for me. We get togather 1 or 2 times per week just to talk and enjoy each other's company. Our relationship has been a mutual bonding of the soul, mind, and has been emotional fulfilled unlike anything that I have ever experienced before. She is also in an unfulfilled marrage and will divorce him when her teen is older. Our problem is that we are sexualy attracted to each other and we both want to go to the next level and start a sexual relatioship. I am fearful that such a change could hurt our friendship. we live in the same community and we have a business relationship. See asked me today if I would consider having an affair with her I am confused whith what is going on. I never planned on getting so involved in anyone at this time. I feel that she is my true soulmate. I am worried that this relationship will make the problems at home worse. And I am fairful that I will hurt my children if it were found out my true feelings foe this wonderful person who I have fallen in love with. Am I wrong for these feelings of love? Was I wrong for developing this relationship? So many questions and I am so confused what the right answers are! I never wanted to do anything that would hurt my family!