you have to understand the dynamics here. rather than council and help this poor child, these people think its clever to use her as their bulldog. that way its not them saying those outrageuos things but it hassles the people they want hassled so they allow it. they collude behind the scenes as well. of course what i describe is unspoken and im a bully for describing it. i dont want to be unkind but its not really tansys fault. she should have been reigned in long ago, had true adults been in charge.