Re: girlfriend was raped

If the child is not yours, you are under no obligation to "father it". Are you certain that you are not the father? If so, she has no right to expect you to father her child.

I hope that she is getting counseling for the rape and that she reported it to the police. If she hasn't had any counseling, refer her to http://www.rainn.org
for guidance.

If you have had unprotected sex with her and she wants to keep the child, insist on a DNA test. Should the test show that you are not the father, let her know that you don't want to be raising and supporting a child that's not yours.

Does she have any idea as to what it is like to raise a child? Is she aware of how much time and money is involved? Once she becomes a parent, she has to know that the child will always come first.

Best of luck to you---and if the child isn't yours, don't allow her to browbeat you into raising this baby. Tweet