Re: poo and toilet
Sitting on a toilet represents a position or attitude of shame that you have assumed. It is a position in which you may feel expected or allowed to express feelings of guilt, sin or simply concern (as in “giving a sh*t”.) In this case this attitude has been placed upon grounds of reasoning in which wisdom is cultivated. (toilet in a garden)
The toilet being placed in front of a gate would emphasize the possibility of changing sides, i.e. changing your point of view. You are aware that there could be many good reasons for seeing yourself in a shameful position (where people could clearly see what I was doing) but because the toilet has been placed out in the open, it indicates that the True Self sees nothing to be ashamed of. To support this, in this scene no one comes in and no one makes any particularly embarrassing comments etc.
Sitting on a chair would imply being in a position to rest at ease. As this is a chair your ex-husband bought for the house, sitting on this chair can suggest a resting at ease attitude in relation to the ex-husband. The ex-husband can also suggest thinking that pertains to the idea of a failed relationship. Seen this way, sitting on a chair the ex-husband bought can imply resting at ease in relation to the idea of a failed relationship.
By pooing on the chair it is implied that the concern or sin that you are expressing is a misplaced concern (as this should be done in a toilet). As you “found out” that you had pooed on the chair, it is also implied that this discovery of a misplaced concern is a discovery you could value and treasure. [Are you feeling guilty about having a failed marriage?] You could feel embarrassed but only because you have made the attitude of resting at ease in relation to a failed marriage now look incorrect (as the chair has been dirtied). You can question why you should try to make the idea of resting at ease in relation to a failed marriage seem like a correct idea. (why should I clean it?) What the True Self is suggesting is to just “drop it away” – drop the issue and let it be for now.
{This may sound like strange advice since marriage is supposed to be until death do us part, I have found from many dreams that God puts the blame upon the husband and not the wife since the husband has been given the position of head of the wife. When a business fails, we blame the CEO at the top and not the workers under him. If the workers act as if they are to blame, the CEO does not need to take responsibility.}