Nobody ever bad mouths others to me via email, or pm. Its the opposite, people want to help. I can think of one exception. I won't bring up his name, he is gone anyway. And it was not his information, it was because he was just so mean and intolerant.
That was ages ago though. I avoid fights, I will go so far as to write these long responses and then x them out totally. Who really cares what I think, or God forbid all this personal stuff about my life. So, on some level I know that and I erase much more than i post on
But, I've talked to a handful of cz people on the phone, ANDVISITEDCONSISTENTLY VIA EMAIL WITH OTHERS.iTHINK iHAVEAFEEL FOR WHO IS REAL (EXCUSE CAPs and malfunctioining space bar...again.
But, ultimately, you cannot believe anyone on the internet. Flesh and blood friends sittin next to you are the best you can do.