My olive branch - Re: Negativity, rationality and plain old commonsense.

I am also sick of the "shenanigans and hullabaloo", and the huge amount of stress and totally unhealthy/negative energy.  It's the last thing that should ever 'be' on any forum, let alone one that is dedicated to healing.

Healing modalities (and discussion thereof) are many times like religion & politics...extremely emotionally- charged with virtually no possibilitly of one side 'giving in to' (or learning from) the other side.  And when any issue is emotionally-charged, the potential for hurt & anger is vast...and it's rare to find any one 'side' that is going to admit (or even consider) that they were the ones doing the hurting or the 'attacking'.

>>>Some of you will believe, and rightly so, that you have a genuine grievance which needs to be addressed, but I believe that those members do have the maturity and wisdom to let bygones be bygones and discard the old in favour of the new.<<<

To be honest, I do believe my recent posts were about a genuine grievance that needs (desperately) to be addressed.  But I'm also very willing to recognize that others may not see things through the same lenses that I do. Even with the purest of hearts and the most righteous & worthy of causes, we can still hurt others (even when we feel that what we did or said wasn't an 'attack' or hurtful in any way).  And in my passion for doing what I discerned was "right" in the best way I knew how, I may have posted words that were interpreted as an 'attack' or were hurtful.  And it was not my intention to hurt anyone - it was to heal.

Before I continue, I have to comment on this: >>> Humble pie can be a bitter pill to swallow <<<

Yes, that IS the way 'the world' commonly sees it.  But I don't feel owning up to the fact that we have hurt (or may have hurt) other people or negatively impacted them, taking responsibility for it, and apologizing sincerely, is something that is 'humbling' or 'bitter to swallow'.   I see it as more like a victory...it's not an easy thing for us to admit we've caused hurt to another (especially when we're "sure" we haven't).  One can never heal anger or hatred with anger & hatred.  As Gandhi said "and eye for an eye & a tooth for tooth, only ensures the whole world will be blind and toothless".

Although I do feel my grievance was genuine and 'righteous', I know that in my emotional passion I may have come across as accusatory, spiteful, 'attacking' or hurtful (or some other negative way that I don't realize)...and I may have hurt others.

That being said, I do want the 'highest good' for Curezone, and if any of my posts hurt Hveragerthi (or anyone else), I truly apologize to him/others for causing that hurt.  I do not desire to add to the negativity on CureZone (or anywhere else in this world).  Hveragerthi, although I honestly don't feel like I have 'attacked' you (and that I've only tried to explain, and show you/others that I haven't attacked you), that doesn't mean that in some way or another I haven't caused you to feel attacked.  I also admit I didn't even consider doing the one thing that may have been a better option (which was PMing or emailing you personally and asking you to see my point of view privately).  Quite honestly, I was scared to do that for fear you'd attack me publicly - and that may have been a wrongful assumption...which would be another reason for me to apologize.   Hveragerthi, I hope you (everyone) will consider forgiving me for anything I have said that has hurt you, because I would like for us to be able to learn from each other; for each of us to be able to post differing viewpoints without the other feeling 'attacked' (or being attacked); and for all of Curezone to see that differences CAN be overcome when people are willing to overcome them.

Onward!

Unyquity