Re: BPD and children

I apologize for my assumptions. I have no idea how long ago this wretched event took place, but your original post and subsequent response suggests that you are stll very raw - understandably so, and I'm not judging. For any counselor/therapist to suggest that a BPD individual is an exception is the height of arogance. No, they are not unless they possess a courage greater than can be measured, and suh courage would prevent them from taking such a rash action. Antidepresants are, IMHO, the worst thing to prescribe for a borderline - it only ruins any remnant of emotional empathy that they may have possessed and provides a very handy excuse for their choices. I was married to one and produced a child with him who was formally diagnosed BPD and has digressed into a full-blown sociopath.

Your survival, and that of your son's, is of the highest priority, now. I will gently suggest that the treating counselor/therapist may not have been realistic in their treatment approach. I would also genty reiterate that it may be advisable to consider engaging in individual / family counseling to help you to sort out your grief and that of your son's. Anger, indignation, blame, and a host of other "negative" emotions are normal to experience when someone we care for suicides, but they can also become an unhealthy focus if we become stagnant in processing them.

My best wishes to you and your son. Tweet