Re: confused and married 10 years

Ok first of all - please don't listen to the previous reply, SERIOUSLY!!

Has it always been like this?? coz if it is, you knew what she was like yet you still married her and had kids. And if it hasn't then how long has it been going on for? You mentioned that you have 2 girls - if they are young then she might just be going through a rough patch.

I have recently not felt like having sex with my hubby and it lasted a couple of months. Its not that I didn't want sex or I was too tired - it was too much of a pattern. Put kids to bed, clean kitchen, watch some tv, go to bed and hubby would roll on over and want some.

For me, hubby has switched it up so we have a quicky wherever we can get one it (literally anywhere!!) The less sex you have the lower you sex drive becomes. If she knows your going to want to have sex then she may just be on edge and instantly say no or not relax fully. Have you tried waiting to see if she will instigate having sex at all or does she just not want it?? Try a bit of romance in the mix - candles, rose petals, maybe a night away with you girls minded. Anything to kickstart you guys again.

Also don't try anything majorly new, just do kinda tiny experiments. You will be suprised at what places on the womens body can really get her turned on when you find them you can exploit them all you like!!

Its not selfish between you and your wife that you want more out of your sex life - but it is so so so unfair to your girls for you to contemplate the possibility of leaving her over this. How would you explain that to them when they are old enough to want to know??

Anyway, message me if you want to talk more!
xo