Re: Mentally abusive wife

You sound like a nice guy. Really.

If we can do a quick review, we can get down to business, so to speak.

Are you abusive or in her business inappropriately in any way. If not, lezzgo.

When the both of you are relaxed....take her by the hand and sit her down. Let her know this is it. You are going to gently but deeply draw the line in the sand FOR HER SAKE. Tell her, "Baby, I need my sleep. From now on, And I am SO SERIOUS....when I am asleep, ONCE I go to sleep unlESS THE HOUSE IN ON FRIGGIN' FIRE, ....baby....don't wake me up again." Tell her you just can't take it anymore. Tell her you are falling apart and that once you fall apart, that's it. She will be abandoned, the kids can't go to college, she'll lose everything, have to move back in with her parents, her friends will talk, she'll be humiliated, embarrassed, scandal will follow, the world will end, the baby won't have any milk, the sky will fall. Catch my drift. You gotta scare some sense into that woman. First of all, she wants to take OFF YOUR PANTS. She doesn't want to be controlling, she doesn't know how to STOP. So she needs you to teach her to STOP. But first you need to learn to START.

Is it just easier for you to let her run the ship??

Say you walk into the Captain's Room and she's at the wheel? Whaddayado????? Flush red because she doesn't hand over the wheel?

Make her give it up!

You're the GOD APPOINTED HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD. You don't have to feel guilty, sir!

I am a wife who has been very badly abused and my husband just claimed to be an "abused husband" and frankly, that is just too much for me to bear. So to keep from driving off a cliff somewhere, I logged onto the forums here to browse. I had to laugh when I saw Abused Husbands (but I know it swings both ways, I read yours, it sounded legit, and so here we are.)

You have problems that can be addressed.

You simply need to be allowed to sleep. AND LET ME TELL YOU, THE NEXT TIME SHE IS SOUND ASLEEP AND YOU GO IN THERE AND START SHAKING HER AND GO "HONEY....HONEY....(HARDER) HOONNNNEY.....WHERE'S THAT ORANGE JUICE, LUV??? DID YA DRINK IT ALL??? WAKE UP! WAKE UP, BABY. BABY??! WAKE UP." She'll leave you alone.

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