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About anger


I think it's a testimony to the people in the forum that they care so much about the planet and what is happening in the gulf, that they are going through the grieving process.
I just have to say, living down here, that the oil spill & what it's doing to people is incredibly difficult to handle with any kind of balance.
I'm living with it every day, and people in the middle of this are losing it right and left.
Losing the Gulf of Mexico it a big deal.
It's like our own bodies, you just get one, there is no replacement for the Gulf, people deal with losses often with anger, it's part of dealing with grief.
Sometimes anger can be motivating, and sometimes it's needful.
(I think you can substute bargaining for some of the interpersonal stuff that's gone on.)

Once you get out of denial, the next stage in anger.

This is from Wiki, on atages of grief it's written about a person facing their own death, but I think a case can be made that facing the loss of our environment that has sustained our race is just as huge an issue as our own health. For a thoughtful person, the loss of one will lead to the loss of the other.

Denial – "I feel fine."; "This can't be happening, not to me."
Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. This feeling is generally replaced with heightened awareness of situations and individuals that will be left behind after death.
Anger – "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; "Who is to blame?"
Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy. Any individual that symbolizes life or energy is subject to projected resentment and jealousy.
Bargaining – "Just let me live to see my children graduate."; "I'll do anything for a few more years."; "I will give my life savings if..."
The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or delay death. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. Psychologically, the individual is saying, "I understand I will die, but if I could just have more time..."
Depression – "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die... What's the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?"
During the fourth stage, the dying person begins to understand the certainty of death. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and grieving. This process allows the dying person to disconnect oneself from things of love and affection. It is not recommended to attempt to cheer up an individual who is in this stage. It is an important time for grieving that must be processed.
Acceptance – "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."
In this last stage, the individual begins to come to terms with their mortality or that of their loved one.

We are all facing a horrible situation, and anyone who brings it to public attention will be met with anger. But if the anger is looked at for what is really is, then the person can go forward.

I hope this helps,
julie77

 

 
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