Mentally abusive wife

I have a wife who likes to control! She wakes me up around 6 about every day and asks for something. I work the night shift 3-anywhere from 11 to 3. Almost everytime that she wakes me and asks for something, I ask her if I can sleep. She gets mad and by the time I wake up, she dont want it! Is this abuse or am I beign selfish. Im not aloud to go out and find friends that enjoy my stuff. I have just the 3 guys I work with but we all do something different on the weekends. I tried to leave once before but she kept unpacking my stuff. I think she is controlling and she will not go to a therapist. I went for her but she always sets a double standard for everything. I do what I can to try to make her happy but no matter what I do, nothing is good enough. I do 95% of the house work and work anywhere from 40 to 60 hours a week. Plus take care of our daughter every morning. What do I do??? Tweet