I hope everyone that is contemplating or going through a divorce with children, please put them first. I went through a divorce about three years ago that I would have probably went through sooner if it had not been for my kids. Telling them was tough and navigating them through the process is even tougher. Three years later we still have conversations about the whys and what could have been different. I was in a situation of safety so I really had no choice but to divorce but it is still gut-wrenching to think that my children come from a split home. I published a short article on my story. The link is below. Thought it might be easier than pasting the long story in here.