poly what?

what's so interesting is that I don't see it as living dangerously at all - I see it as living with less fear and encompassing the beings we're meant to be. I seek to be free of the fear-paradigm that makes people get divorces. If people understood that their lover will always find people attractive and even if there were something to breeze by them that caught their attention that it'll be ok. That's where we're all screwed up - and I believe (sorry) that it's based on mono-theism. We are not monogamous beings by nature - and that's ok. You don't see animals have concurrent relationships with other animals - it's about whiffs on the breeze. The same person you wanna ride a roller coaster with is not the same person you want to help you raise children.

Our lives are complex as humans and when ya try to shove yourself in a little tiny box and as lovers - you hold each other to an unreasonably tiny little box - that box, at some point, will bust at the seams.

Why do you think all these officials are having to apologize all over themselves for having affairs? If their wives were allowed the same - and a weekend away from your monogamy made you both feel free to love each other even more - no marriage on the planet would ever break apart. Ever.

Real relationships can allow each other to be - that's all. Feeling a threat to your relationship means it wasn't that stable to begin with. Being means being malleable. The man is going on vacation with his best friend next week and I am SO happy for them. I told him yesterday that if the universe drops a treat in his lap and he wishes to be adored for the evening, knowing that his loving wife will love him just as much when he gets home - then he should allow himself to be adored for the evening. I mean - I don't know if I can ever adore or love him as much as I feel in my heart and I know darn good and well - there are a lot of evenings when lovely people turn down a lovely evening and it's not because it wasn't fleeting and wouldn't have been wonderful - it's out of guilt. Why does the rest of a relationship have to suffer because of a whiff on the wind? FEAR. GUILT.

Those frequencies aren't healthful for us - you could agree to that on every angle in reality - yet - on this topic - it reigns supreme.

I challenge you all to really think about what I'm saying. Concurrence is not the same thing as fleeting moments. When we superimpose a fearful paradigm over those - it colors everything we allow - or don't allow - ourselves to be open in love for.


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