Wow, ciscokid, Miss Helfinger is right! You deserve BIG hugs :) My hubby is a lot like you and Miss H's. Sweet man, knew I was sick, but married me anyway over 7 years ago! I say the same thing on my bad days, "why didn't you marry someone healthy who could do more and give you more kids than I can?" and he always smiles and says b/c he loves ME. I just don't get it, I feel I don't deserve him. I'm blessed, and so is Ciscokid's wife and Miss H's hubby and anyone else who has a loving, supportive and caring partner in this life!
I wish you all the best and hope your wife makes a full recovery.