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Re: How do you cope with cruel comments from complete strangers
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Re: How do you cope with cruel comments from complete strangers

Hi sincerelady,

 This is a very complex question you ask.  There are different levels that need to be addressed when addressing this problem, systematic social behavior, the perpetrator of insults, and the sufferer’s psychosocial needs are some.  

To address the 1st issue, systematic social behavior, I believe the focus should be on raising social awareness of the existence of a metabolic condition involving the malfunctioning of the liver resulting in body odor.  When you first began to feel body odor, did you know that such a thing existed? Well, neither does the rest of society, including most in the medical field. 

You may want to read my previous post here in CureZone regarding an organized effort to raise social awareness that is taking place at the present time for you to join us.  This whole effort is resulting in a great deal of psychological healing for the sufferers who choose to get involved, and all sufferers are invited to participate.

The 2nd aspect that needs to be considered when you become a victim of discrimination as a result of BO is the question of, ‘who is the perpetrator, or the person insulting you?’  Do you even like this person?  Sometimes we are so preoccupied with wanting to be loved and accepted by others, that we don’t stop to think whether we even like this person.  Do you think this person is worth your time of day?  Only you can make this decision.

A 3rd aspect that you need to consider is your psychological need at that moment.  What would be more healing for you at that moment, to express your anger, to express your thoughts, or to ignore it and focus on other more important things in your life?  We can chose when and where we want to address this issue and we can set boundaries and limits regarding when and where we let people into our lives and when to keep people out of our lives.  

I think it's necessary to realize that we can’t change the world in one encounter, but we can protect ourselves from injury by understanding that we have alternatives regarding how to process each assault internally (in our minds) and externally (in our actions), and that we can ‘choose our battles’ based on the calculated outcome.  Sometimes the reward is just to release our anger and our pain by speaking out, and other times we feel better not reacting at all and blocking it all out of our minds.

We need to do activities that help us feel empowered.  To the degree that we feel empowered, to that same degree we are not victims.  What activities have helped people feel empowered?  Sharing our experiences and odor management protocol with each other as we do in these forums.  Many sufferers find that participating with other sufferers in organized activities to promote social awareness and scientific research is a very healing process. Participating in these activities creates a sense of camaraderie and a support system that helps us cope with the physical, social, and emotional challenges this condition brings. 



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