Chris! thank you from the bottom of my heart! i feel so very honoured that you and the others in this forum have given my plight so much thought and are taking the time to offer me such meaningful, tailor-made advice. i've copied and pasted your message and i plan to follow it to the letter. i'm so ready to tackle this and i didn't want to delay a single moment so i actually just signed up for the EFT newsletter two seconds ago :) and after this i'm going to google this "Oleander soup".