Re: Male seeking to help female friend

MtDewww is right. One thing you also have to realize is that if she is mature enough, and ready for someone to help her, and I mean REALLY help her (not just pity by showing attention) then she will seek it out. TRUST ME. How do you think all these other girls end up on here?
It's interesting that you ended up on here before she did. Do you have feelings for her? If her friends are seeking help for her and she isn't, then she's probably just not mature enough to realize what's going on...and she could possibly dwell on the abuse. She needs to learn for herself. She also needs to cut off contact with these guys. There's no reason he should still threaten her because she should not be anywhere near him if she is really hurt by it.

The simple fact that you kept your mouth shut during this 17-20 period probably only hurt her more. Friends tend to enable this behavior because they are afraid of stepping on toes. You need to man up and realize that if her friends don't confront this face on, she never will and she will think it's okay. Especially at such a tender age for serious relationships.

Your position reminds me a lot of a guy I know...also named Dave. Hey, maybe you're the same guy...because the girl I'm thinking of is one of his best friends and she was with the boyfriend for almost three years during that age range...I think hers ended when she was 18. I didn't know her, but I knew the boyfriend and the friend. Shad the great idea to start communication with him again about three years later. I think her decision stemmed from the insecurity about that relationship ending against her will and wanting to sabotage what he left her for.
That kind of insecurity is where her friends DEFINITELY need to step in and say something. She has no business contacting him, especially since he's in a new relationship and things obviously weren't working out that great for her. She needs to let another girl deal with it...maybe one more open to dealing with, and familiar with personality disorders that cause such abusive behavior. Tweet