Manage to Allow Anger to move through you...

“Hey there. I do have an anger management problem. I very easily slide from annoyed to angry, and often let it ruin the rest of my day. I can be extremely vengeful and have been known to sya some of the most incisively hurtful things when I'm angry JUST so I can hurt the other person. I have never, ever become physically violent, but I do worry that it may someday devolve into that, which scares me to death. I am also very intolerant of criticism, even when constructive, and have an egocentric view of the world in many cases e.g. if it's not done my way, it's hard for me to accept.”
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First thing to realize is that all problems are created by the mind… It is a great problem maker.
Second thing to understand is that all societies are really interested in their own survival… and not so much concerned with the survival of the individual.
Third thing to understand is the body-mind mechanism and how it is best to function in society.
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We have all been conditioned to be masochists…
For all the governments to be able to maintain so many people living together, all the nations of this world have created overly-moralistic and emotionally-oppressive societies for the people that reside under their rule. And, the most oppressed group of individuals on the planet are the children of each of these societies.

The child comes into this world full of innocence. Upon his very first breath... the stripping of this innocence from him begins with a slap from the doctor... Such a welcome!
Discovering the world on his own... without the interference from others... now, this would be a very rare individual indeed... but it is most definitely not the case...

The awe and the wonder of it all has somehow been quickly stolen away.
The more the child lives his life, the more he finds it is not his life to live.
He is told what is good, what is bad, what is right and what is wrong… what he can’t do and what he can… soon the child is lost … in the name of ‘good intentions’, he will be made to properly fit into the society …becoming a good conformist…

Conformity means that the child will be a useful cog in the wheel of the society. So that society’s survival is ensured …but not necessarily the child’s own survival. In fact, it is at the cost of the child’s physical and mental well-being that the society survives ...that is the price that is paid... so the society can go on surviving... and for the child --he will be put into an early grave...

As a consequence... as part of society's plan... the expression of most emotions that arise in an individual is unacceptable in most social settings. One cannot cry in public... show their displeasure or their anger... Even laughter, at times, must be held inside so as not to be seen or heard by others… so others are not embarrassed …or put in awkward situations...

So... the society has developed a strategy for its members… they are to ‘control’ themselves… and, with this, society can go on functioning normally... the strategy is called 'repression' or 'suppression' of one's emotions ...so that other members of society will not be disturbed... and the pace of society will remain unobstructed...

The child is taught this early on... so when he matures into an adult, it appears to be a natural course in the living of one's life... it becomes an automated response to a countless number of situations...

Over years of ‘controlling’ one’s emotions… of pushing this energy back inside from where it comes… it finds a place to hide, where it will not be seen by others. .. This unexpressed energy lodges itself somewhere within... to be held there, so as not to be ever seen or heard by others ...it finds its way deep into some muscle, into some connecting tissue, into some organ …somewhere deep into the subconscious it goes, as well... and, for everyone it is different…

This causes a certain amount of stagnated energy to accumulate within the body-mind of the individual… But energy is meant to move! If it is prevented from moving on its natural course, it will then move in a perverted way! ...In this perverted form, it can do a lot of damage to the body-mind mechanism….

Over time one becomes as if sitting on top of a volcano of pent-up emotions and physical stress within, ready to explode… at the slightest scratch of the skin... but one must always keep a smiling face… hiding the reality of it from others …so that no one will ever find out about this secret that is buried inside...the hidden volcano. One can even fool himself into believing that there is not a problem... as long as he says “hello”… “good morning"... "how are you”... with a smiling face. Hence, this unexpressed energy can do tremendous harm to the body-mind mechanism…

And so what is the way out of this dilemma? --To stop hurting oneself!
If one truly loves himself ...then, one will not be masochistic any longer! …then, it is of utmost importance to find ways to express this energy that has been stuffed back inside for so long…

I suspect this is a central reason for the adrenal fatigue problems that arise... for the hormone imbalances that arise... for thyroid malfuntioning to arise in this society... in all societies...
Together with the diet that helps one to remain distracted from seeing what is buried within... along with the countless other habits and activities one pre-occupies himself with... so the ugly mess that one has created for himself is never encountered...

One can live his entire life avoiding this inner reality... but then could this really be called a life? ...maybe, the best label would be to call it a dead life... or psuedo-life... or a sad life... but certainly not a very joyful one.

Understanding this is...is the beginning... and truly loving oneself is the cure… this means, finding ways to express the emotions that are held back within body-mind is part of the cure… consider it another type of cleanse for the body and mind...

Get to the gym …go for a run… but get your emotions involved in the activity...go into your closet with a pillow and scream the frustration out of you… the anger -out of you... the tears and sadness -out of you... do not be afraid... it is natural… do whatever you need to do to become clean of all the garbage that has been collected over the years and is held inside of you….

It sounds crazy… yes! It is! ...that’s exactly what society has been encouraging you to do to yourself… sinking more and more into a kind of madness! …it is time to reclaim your sanity... and to start living life on your own terms... it is for your own physical and mental well-being… it is a matter of choosing life over death!
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You say:
"I am also very intolerant of criticism, even when constructive, and have an egocentric view of the world in many cases e.g. if it's not done my way, it's hard for me to accept.”

Intolerance of criticism and difficulty in not accepting things not done your way… it is indicative of an inferiority complex… it is not an uncommon thing to have… it is often reactionary to being mistreated as a child somewhere along the line…
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You say:
“I can be extremely vengeful and have been known to sya some of the most incisively hurtful things when I'm angry JUST so I can hurt the other person.”

In fact it is revenge… an unconscious revenge... for the way you have been mistreated and not allowed to be yourself for years and years… it is a natural outcome for making you feel you that you are not worthy… that you are not okay the way you are… Understanding this is the way to come out of it.

If you can see the point and have any intelligence at all... then you will simply stop doing this to yourself... you will find ways to express yourself... you will find ways of expressing this without trespassing on others... to express your anger without putting it on someone else...

Otherwise, by putting it on others, this does not take care of the problem... By putting it onto others, you are just passing on your dis-ease to someone else. They will have to find another to put it onto also... then, on and on it will go. This is how a single person's problem can become a world problem...
Be responsible for your life situation... take care of your problem by not putting it on others... make this a better world by being responsible for yourself.

Go to the park and talk to a tree... yell across the river... talk gibberish to yourself when you are alone... but find a civilized way to move this energy out of yourself rather than blaming it on someone else... by putting it on others... rather than burying back inside yourself.

This is how to really make this world more civilized... this is how you can create a better world for yourself and others... express it through the body-mind mechanism...
If you can do this, you will be free... the self-imposed prison that you have created for yourself will dissolve away...
Be free of it... love yourself... and don't repress.
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You say:
"I very easily slide from annoyed to angry, and often let it ruin the rest of my day."

It ruins the whole rest of your day because the anger is prevented from being expressed... because you have been conditioned to pushing it back down inside yourself... it remains festering inside yourself wanting to be expressed but prevented by your acceptance of this type of strategy of remaining in "control"...

You are not in control... you are hurting yourself... you are a good masochist!

It is a cheap strategy by the society to keep itself together... over the years you will die from some related dis-ease from this repression of your energies... you will have a heart attack... a stroke or some other type of dis-ease caused by the tension collected over the years... from the accumulation of unexpressed emotions within you body-mind... you are killing yourself... and society will go on not paying you any notice... it will guarantee its survival... and you will be the great sacrifice so this can happen... sorry, but this is only being a good cog in the wheel and nothing more than that.

Love yourself in total. This includes all aspects of yourself. Accept all your emotions… by not preventing them from being expressed. Allow them to arise and express them naturally... you will find anger, when it moves naturally, has a beauty of its own...

Only when it is prevented does it become a problem. Only when it is repressed does it become perverted and ugly. It only becomes ugly when it is has built up inside from times before of repression and then, suddenly it comes spewing out like a venom.

You can see it with any young child how beautiful and alive such anger energy is... when a tantrum is full on... he is total anger... it is totally being expressed and nothing held back... this is before he has learned that he is not allowed to do this... before he has been conditioned to repress.
Learn how to express anger as it arises... and it will not be a problem... when it moves naturally...

Everything that makes you who you are… love it. It is the way out of the insanity that society has encouraged you to create for yourself.
Accept yourself and this will lead to acceptance of others around you... Love yourself and this will lead to loving others for who they are...
Be at peace with yourself and you help to create a more peaceful world...

Peace to you.


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