This strategy might push your husband away. Sooner or later he will get frustrated and cheat or distance him self from you. Sex is part of the marriage where you always work on something new and try to improve. There is a lot of good educational books and videos on sex life and exploring that option might be one of the steps to take

The female body is very mysterious to men and I think most of us don't really understand how to please women. The sad fact is that I think a lot of men don't really care too much about this or they just think it is impossible to learn. I would love it if a girl just told me exactly what to do and would help me understand her body better.

There, I said it, it's out in the open. There is technique, feel, and quite a bit of energy needed to lick a woman's clitoris to cllmax...and many guys just don't want to put in the effort. Other women know this and know where and how to tame a woman's inner pleasures. Guys who want to please their women KNOW exactly how to give her head. Those who think they know, hit and miss, leaving their girlfriend frustrated...that's where you are. Your guy gives bad head, don't feel like you're the only one out there, Sweetheart, you're in the majority on this topic! Most guys don't know or won't put in the homework to get it right. They want you to give them the best blow job of their life, but when it comes to going down on you, hey...I'll lick her labia lips here, maybe dance around her clit there, finger her awhile while I'm exploring...all the while the woman is looking down on the crown of his head thinking..."Just get it over with and f*ck me already!"

Memo to guys reading this: If you want to be good at anything, you gotta practice. If you shy away from a woman's vagina because you don't like the smell, or you're intimidated by inadequacy, or the thought of eating out her hole doesn't appeal to you on a sanitary level, well then...you won't be any damned good at it. Oral sex for women and men is a dirty business. You're gonna have to get your hands...er...tongue dirty to satisfy. That I'll guarantee. Your guy sounds like that category of guy. And it's a shame that guys out there don't give what a woman really wants. There is a difference between a vaginal cllmax and a penetrating clitoral cllmax. Just ask any woman who has enjoyed both, most will tell you the expert tongue trumps the expert penis every time.

I'm a lesbian so I can speak from first hand experience. I think the reason women are so much better is because obviously we know what it feels like. Another thing too is that women are hypersensitive to non verbal communication, sounds, and movements. It's rather annoying to tell someone what they should do, but you can communicate in so many other ways and women are very good at picking up on this. I also think it's like an extension of kissing a women on the lips, very sensual, and again I think women excel in this area. For a man, I think it's a built in mechanism for the end result allowing for him to release his "seed" if you will. For a woman, the art of mating is entirely different, and more of a bonding experience so a woman's intent isn't to necessarily get off. I personally love to make love to a woman from head to toe, and the very act of it is enough for me. I get more turned on going down on a woman than any other act. That's my opinion anyway.

You have to talk to him about this !

This is typical of women. They say, " Here's my Thang, YOU figure out what to do with it." Of course men are clueless about giving a woman an cllmax, unless someone trains them. p 0 r n Videos are also useless for training.

I'm sure he will try hard to give you your cllmaxs, if you show him what you want him to do. Also this: what gives you an cllmax may not give other women an cllmax. Every woman is a little different.

So I say communicate your needs before, during and after sex. Demonstrate for him what you need. Don't be bashful here. SPEAK UP!

Send me a message for more. I just sent this link to my 2 sons that I thought was pretty good. It was missing some vital information, but was pretty good, especially the drawing of the clitoris. All component parts respond to stimulation with fingers. I save stimulating the Glans until it is throbbing & crying for an cllmax:
http://www.lifestylegod.com/how-to-stimulate-the-clitoris-clitoral-stimulation
Show this to your DH, it will help. At least he will know about the internal structure of the clitoris. If he knows where to stimulate, then you are there.

PS) My wife LOVES my magical fingers, and prefers them over oral sex every time. The tongue cannot properly stimulate the Bulbs of Vestibule, or the Corpus Cavernosum, and not the area above the pubic bone. All of these components in that link are essential for the wife's wall shaking, window rattling cllmaxs that wake up the neighbors next door. ( let them eat their hearts out Ha Ha )

Grizz

Men were just not taught how to give a woman good head. We learn by trial and error. I now give her the strongest cllmax she's ever experienced, but it took practice and want on my part to be the best. Guys don't give the effort, I agree with you. Tongueing a woman's clit takes effort and stamina if done correctly. Just licking all around her vagina lips won't cut the mustard. If he doesn't take a hint and you get off in other ways, hey...two outta three ain't bad. Don't screw up a good marriage because he's lousy at eating pussy.