Dr. Wong has some interesting things to say about estrogen-dominant women, and how to get the hormones in balance.

My wife wouldnt let me sleep either, when I had a full time job and she was a house-wife with no children. It's a really mean thing to do. I felt that it contributed to my getting sick. Our food supply is toxic, and many of our "foods" are addictive toxins. Many common foods are estrogen-producing substances, esp soymilk & so are birth-control pills. Estrogen dominance can lead to constant PMS.

Docsprefer.com sells a progesterone cream that is supposed to help. I wonder if it would make a difference with your wife, or if it would have made a difference w/ mine, or maybe karezza. Karezza is worth looking in to also. It's free and if it could get you some sleep and harmony, would be worth trying.

Ultimately, how can a man get his wife to allow him 8 hours a day of sleep, so that he can maintain his health so that he might support his family (including her)? It seems like a reasonable and rational human being would be capable of allowing at least that. Done repeatedly, it is a cruel thing to do. I know. It shows inconsiderateness and immaturity, and worst of all, a lack of respect for the bread-winner and head of the family. What's her problem? I'd rather be single than be with the woman who did that to me & eventually made me sick to my stomach. I loved her immensely, but she kept me up so that she could yell at me in the most bitter voice about how I did not love her.

She was a half-decent wife except for the 3-week/mo long PMSing that got worse & worse as time went on. Sounds very similar to what you have. She wanted all my time & attention also. She'd follow me if I left the house to get away from her.

I wonder if she would respect your sleep more, if some random loud noise woke her up several times a night when she slept. Maybe she'd even sleep when you do.

My wife was pretty lousy, but she did not show her full meanness until she left me, demanding $6000, and spending $1000 of it to make a painting of her naked boyfriend & leaving it for me to see, & then jumping in w/ another boyfriend all before we divorced, & not cooperating w/ the divorce... ...

Inconsiderate, selfish people can be somewhat nice to you when you're paying their bills, but what's going to happen if you choose to stop the tyranny and either demand respect or leave before you get sick like I did? If you think she's mean now, wait till the money monster comes and the laws are BS. The whole process is BS, and you have a kid.

I hope, for your sake, that it's just a chemical imbalance that can be corrected with diet, vitamins... I hope she's not just one of those majority of people who happen to have no conscience whatsoever, and basically just use and manipulate men until they get bored of them and quit caring. I hope she at least has some good lucks to make up for her inconsiderate actions. Welcome to the bitter men's club :) hehehe

Well...waking you up when you need your sleep and doing it on a regular basis, is abusive. Also, preventing you from seeing your friends is abusive. Abusers do the latter as a way to isolate their spouses/SOs from others.

So...you have two options:
1) Stay with her and put up with this BS. If you do choose this option, then ask yourself, just what is the pay off for you?

2) File for divorce and ask for custody of your child. Divorce is not a step to be taken lightly, of course, but no one should have to put up with abuse and no child should have to grow up in that environment.

If you truly want to leave, then get a good lawyer. Start documenting the abusive things she does to you. Also, don't use the excuse that she keeps unpacking your things so you can't leave. If you have to rent a storage facility and gradually move your belongings into it bit by bit, then do so.

In the end, it's all up to you. You say she doesn't want to go for counseling. Will she at least go for a physical check-up? If you can get her to make an appointment, call the doctor's office and tell them about her behavior. Obviously due to confidentiality laws, the doctor's office won't be able to share the results of her physical with you but at least by calling them, you will have given them a heads up regarding her behavior.

You sound like a nice guy. Really.

If we can do a quick review, we can get down to business, so to speak.

Are you abusive or in her business inappropriately in any way. If not, lezzgo.

When the both of you are relaxed....take her by the hand and sit her down. Let her know this is it. You are going to gently but deeply draw the line in the sand FOR HER SAKE. Tell her, "Baby, I need my sleep. From now on, And I am SO SERIOUS....when I am asleep, ONCE I go to sleep unlESS THE HOUSE IN ON FRIGGIN' FIRE, ....baby....don't wake me up again." Tell her you just can't take it anymore. Tell her you are falling apart and that once you fall apart, that's it. She will be abandoned, the kids can't go to college, she'll lose everything, have to move back in with her parents, her friends will talk, she'll be humiliated, embarrassed, scandal will follow, the world will end, the baby won't have any milk, the sky will fall. Catch my drift. You gotta scare some sense into that woman. First of all, she wants to take OFF YOUR PANTS. She doesn't want to be controlling, she doesn't know how to STOP. So she needs you to teach her to STOP. But first you need to learn to START.

Is it just easier for you to let her run the ship??

Say you walk into the Captain's Room and she's at the wheel? Whaddayado????? Flush red because she doesn't hand over the wheel?

Make her give it up!

You're the GOD APPOINTED HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD. You don't have to feel guilty, sir!

I am a wife who has been very badly abused and my husband just claimed to be an "abused husband" and frankly, that is just too much for me to bear. So to keep from driving off a cliff somewhere, I logged onto the forums here to browse. I had to laugh when I saw Abused Husbands (but I know it swings both ways, I read yours, it sounded legit, and so here we are.)

You have problems that can be addressed.

You simply need to be allowed to sleep. AND LET ME TELL YOU, THE NEXT TIME SHE IS SOUND ASLEEP AND YOU GO IN THERE AND START SHAKING HER AND GO "HONEY....HONEY....(HARDER) HOONNNNEY.....WHERE'S THAT ORANGE JUICE, LUV??? DID YA DRINK IT ALL??? WAKE UP! WAKE UP, BABY. BABY??! WAKE UP." She'll leave you alone.

Hope this helps.