Grieving and healing the loss

Date:   9/12/2006 3:18:23 PM ( 18 y ago)

by Ellen A Mogensen

When we grieve for another, what we are really mourning is the loss of
them from our lives.

Part of life on Earth is losing those we love along the way. Time will
take the sharp edge off the pain but it is not guaranteed to release our
need to grieve. If you are finding it hard to let go of your grief, one
of three things is likely standing in the way of you releasing it... so
that you can move past the pain and into the beauty of love.

* Completeness: Mourning is most often prolonged because we lack the
feeling of being complete with our loved one. Perhaps we said or did
something we should not have -or- we failed to do or say something that we
should have.

Whatever it was or it was not, we mourn our lost opportunity. The good
news is that if we say or do now what we wanted to say or do then -or- if
we apologize for what we said or did... our loved one will absolutely get
it because we are all connected at the level of Soul. So if you feel
incomplete, get complete now.

* Connection: When we mourn those we have lost, grief helps us to feel
connected. For as long as we continue to grieve, it makes us feel close
to our lost love. We falsely believe that our trail of tears is like a
glistening leash that binds our hearts and our minds to the one who is no
longer alive.

What we must remember is that death ends a life but not a relationship...
as long as our loved one lives in our memories we are still connected.

* Loyalty: If we feel complete with our loved one and if we feel connected
without the grief, then it is loyalty that prolongs our mourning... and
can cause it to last indefinitely.

Prolonged mourning is the hardest on the "lost" loved ones who "look down"
on us... and feel our grief more deeply than we feel it ourselves. So if
you want to show your lost loved one loyalty... then honor their love by
living a full and joyous life!

 

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