Sexual injury and sexual preformance issues are not discussed because men are not yet liberated.

Date:   5/22/2007 2:58:37 PM ( 17 y ago)

I am trying to draw a picture of EGO, of KNOW THYSELF, and how they relate to the fact of our mostly hidden problems in sexuality due to the injurious practise of circumsicion.
How can we "know ourselves" and live accordingly when we have yet to admit the serious problems of damaged sexua| organs?

-------------- Mens Liberation and Sexuality ------------------

Men in our modern society have not yet gone through what might be called "men's liberation", something like womens lib of a few decades ago. Freeing ourselves from the restricitive roles we have been taught to take on, and freeing ourselves from our sexua| identity, are ways that 'liberate' us.

Whatever personal traits we take on as a result of societal pressures and expectations are simply roles, and not the essence of our personality. Happiness is often lost when any person takes on a role that they are not suited for, and certainly there are many men in our world that are, for example, "acting" like a macho man who would be happier showing a gentler side of themselves that they have chosen to hide.

Thats simple enough, but now we toss into the mix an abberation, a surgical proceedure that can damage a man's sexua| organ, and we might have some very confused and angry males walking around as if nothing is wrong. Circumcision is that abberation. Until the changes that circumcision causes to sexua| performance, and the physical mechanics of ejactulation, become well known to every male, we will be doomed to be playing roles that we are not well suited for.

Circumcision damages the "pump" mechanism that is known as the "ridged band" , and as a result males must adapt in order to ejaculate. It often becomes a matter of working the penis 'too vigourously' - in masterbation or actual fornication - and that causes cetain areas of the unprotected tip [head] of the penis to become sore, painfull [unprotected because that skin covering is gone due to circumcision.]

There is also many cases where circumcision has caused the exposed tip to become stimulated from simply touching the underwear as we walk. This tends to cause more sexua| responses in the man, and he becomes aroused much more often than un-circumcised men. That is not good in a society where sexua| contact is not available at all times, where that sexua| energy is stored away or turned into frustration.

Frustration is only beginning for that 'injured male' - when the circumsized ones do find a sexua| partner, or when they fall in love with someone and decide to have sex, they do NOT "get what they came for" - satisfaction. Yearning for SEX, then finally having SEX available, but then failing miserably due to performance issues is utterly agonising.

Sexual performance issues can enrage these males, and may in fact be the MOST COMMON REASON FOR MALE RAGE. We see a lot of male rage in our world, usually over something silly like a flat tire or a broken CD, but the reason those angry males are about to explode at all hours of the day and night is sexua| problems. The cause of those problems is circumcision. The rage is not well understood by the males, and the last thing they wil consider is that it has something to do with sexua| performance. WE have not yet been liberated enough to talk about it, and to place blame where i t should be.

Most often there is premature ejaculation due to the overly-sore tip that has been exposed thru circumcision. The female vagina is warm and moist and is 'the most perfect hole for a penis to enter', and premature ejaculation is almost a certainty when that sore penis enters a soothing vagina.

Another major problem is losing the erection - the erection is lost just before, or at the time of entry, into 'whatever warm hole they have awaiting them'. This is not allways an 'emotional' problem, in fact it may be only a physical problem. When there is pain associated with an erection, and an even stronger pain AFTER fornication, that may be enough to make it go soft at the time when we are about to have sex.

Both 'Pre-E', and 'losing it', are things that almost no males discuss with other males, or our wives. If you wondered about our most private conversations, thats the truth of it - we don't discuss our sexua| performance except to brag about keeping it up for 20, or 40, minutes [all lies]. Certainly, we never admit having problems in our conversations with our peers [other men]. Perhaps some do, I only know my crowd, but I suspect it is the same everywhere.

Therefore, we are walking around with this agonising secret about something so essential to our personality as sex. It is not talked about, SO IT MUST BE SHAMEFULL, and therefore 'I will never mention it'. We put on a front of a sexua| man with sexua| prowess but when put to the test we know we will likely fail. We worry about losing our erections, or 'spitting it out' way too early, or the painfull penis tip after sex. This strange disconnect between our false front and reality cannot be doing us any good, it is not the sign of healthy sexuality in our culture.

Males who are 'unaware of their motivations' are not going to live a happy life, and will affect other lives with their unhappiness and rage.

It has not worked so far to BLAME them and just say "anger management" to them when they get angry, that will just add to the frustration!!! They have a real problem that will not go away just by staying calm. "Anger management", in that case, is just mean spirited and blaming the victims. [CTP, OTS?] . Sexually damaged men need real help, not blame.

It is long past due to have ourselves a LIBERATION.

links:
What is the “ridged band”?

http://research.cirp.org/index-e.html


Association for Genital Integrity

http://www.courtchallenge.com/








 

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