We get to know ourselves in romantic Relationships.... Fastastic Show with Esateys and Rafael on World Puja internet radio.

Date:   7/8/2007 5:48:28 PM ( 17 y ago)

3:45 PM
July 8, 2007


Powerful show I am listening to now!!!!

About this relationship Show:

http://www.esateys.com/Radiostation.html


A Program that I highly recommend from
the July 3 show:

http://www.worldpuja.org/archives/2007-07-03/index.php?rnd=8408


NOTES:

PURPOSE OF RELATIONSHIP:

Self Knowledge....


FINDING FAULT IN OTHERS....


stop looking as if they are doing something to us.

mirror all the things we don't like about ourself.


THE MIRRORING PRINCIPLE:


THE PURPOSE OF THE RUB:

to love ourself.

behold right and wrong way...this is a myth...

everything isn't the way it is suppose to be the way it is.
game: think we are suppose to change it from what it is.

to the degree we are in judgement of another,
we have an internal resistance to that.
look deeper, we have felt victimized....

Judgement is a judgement of self...

Indian man said...three fingers...pointing back at us.

Being O.K. with the Rub...

[for me...calling it good...]

A relationship beyond where the Mind knows to Go....
to have a relationship like this....
one so compelling...'
need to
demonstrate....compassion..

We have the ability to be who
at any given time....
what if you treated yourself that way?

Key ingredients to a connected
and powerful relationship...

GET THIS QUOTE:

32 minutes:

R: My experience, as in the case of us,
we have attracted to each other,
to experience what we really need to work on
in the moment in evolution.

We have core issues that react to the other.
We can often spoken to use that as a tool to continue
to work through the issues....
that we have to work through....


E: IT is the core of relationship, to find the core of you.
When you find the core issues,that you have, and you are willing to
let them be owned by you...then you can start making changes....
and you can have your partner allow your partner to be atremendous support in doing that.

first recognize it is your issue.
Speak to your issues with ownership.
and say, I know this is my issue...
I know this is what I have going on,
my request is...
would you be willing to support me in this?
and then ask for the support that you need...

IF issue is that you are needing reassurance...
then say...when this occurs...
I am feeling frightened, and insecure....
unsafe, I am feeling reassurance right here.

not quick fix it, not the point of this,
but rather

To hold the space stable enough,
so I can go inside...
to go inside and feel o.k. feel the feeling
I have there...
so I can work on this
and still
feel that you will still love me....

core Issue:
In human, mankind.
if you really know who I am,
you will not love me...
core issue...in human mankind,
issue...keeps us from
being honest,
open
from being vulnerable...


keeps us in the lie in relationship...

to be with a person
who will accept and love you
with your core issues....
when you are into ownership of your feeling...
this is very powerful relationship!!!!


Expose this piece with...and work through it.


most people..in relationship...
in awake relationshi.
is willing to hold the space for you.
they will love you...
even if you throw your tamtrum...

they do not personalize the other person's issue

if it overlaps...

you get to find out what is going on with you...


Let's say...I have an issue.

THis is my issue...

I am working this.
request...
no matter

this has nothing to do with my loving you,
this has to do with me loving me....

how to deal with what I have not accepted as O.K. inside me.
reassure me

my committment...

I will not attack you.

When this


Difference in saying...

between saying...when you are doing this to me...


I would say...

when this occurs

this occurs a deep core place.

I am dealing with this in the best way I can...
'
R: When you communicate in this matter,
it allow me to have

profound love without attachment...

my issue that I did something wrong...
really something that is...

IF you are in a place
where the other person is discosing.
this degree of vulnerability...
your assignment is to have....
opened hearted love...

what you see in them is in you....

important...

when issues overlap...

internal picture...says...
she making this about me...
not just that one has the issue....
both have it...

You have some aspect of this issue going on.

not that one person has it...

both working the issue...

the more powerfully work through this...

I realize that...

I am also noticing I have got this going on with me...


I have this going...

When you tell me that this behavior activates you..
I feel I am not o.k. as I am...

take a moment go in...

maybe because something else happened in your life.

this is creating guilt, shame...it is in fact

piece you have not liked about yourself..
mirroring it for you...


R: its it truly the mirroring effect.
we go back and forth...

reminds me of fun houses...
issue bounces back between us...
reactivating the core
until we get down to the bottom...

E; it is a more challenging when with someone
not awake enough to understand this terminology.

Do inner work with yourself...

partner may or may not be able to understand it.

a powerful tool relationship for awakening...

a way to grow and evolve.

partner
willing to accept responsibiltiy
can move more ...

truth is...

you are with yourself..

when this is recognized...

interchange with

very powerful...

sometimes...easier to be alone...

many not in relationship
want to be in relationship
but when go in, they see too much of themselves.

don't settle by being with someone who is not awake.






35:

I have not accepted as O.K.
If you would hold the space for me
My committment is I will not attack you.


When this behavior occurs I feel this way.

When this behavior occurs...

I am dealing with this in the best way I can...

36:

R:

When this issue occurs...
I feel...

issue is, you are needing reassurance....
not to quick fix it....
rather to








Concept explained here....


"Energy never leaves its source"--explained on show...
Cannot have a thought about someone else without
it affecting you.

The other person is not really doing it to you.

R: The most challenging aspect of being in relationship.
The feeling of victim. So easy to blame the other person.

Unhealed pieces that I am reacting to?

Romantic Relationship is a tool for awakening.

To the degree

Walking around finding fault in others....

Programs and circuits...how we are thinking about
ourself.

We go from relationship to relationship
hoping we will find a piece of ourselves that we like.
What occurs, you see the other pieces that you
are not so cool.

Relationship shows you the pieces....


E: What if you make it O.K. to be with the rub?


Some people energetically on a different pathway than you are.

You have to have within you the awareness of who you really are.

Why do we attract the people that we do?

Drawn...

The core of relationship is to find the core of you.
Partner can be a tremendous support.

Recognize that it is your issue.
Speak to your issue with ownership
Request: would you be willing to support me in this....

When this occurs...I am feeling frightened...
insecure....

Would you be willing to ...


Core issue: If you really know who I am,
You won't love me.

Keeps us from being honest,
vulnerable,
keeps us in the lie.

To be with a person who accepts you
with your core issues....[this is important].

Stand in ownership.....

Awake relationship:

Hold the Space for you....
They do not personalize the other person's issue...
if part of their issue overlaps...yours...

This is my issue...I am really working this...

How I feeling has nothing do with me loving you....
This has to do with me loving me....

My committment:

I will not attack you.

When this occurs, I feel this way.
This touches a core place, I am dealing with this
in the best way I can...

R: Profound love without attachment....

Something that is....
without you or the other person being wrong.

if person disclosing....
this vulnerability....
your assignment....

Internal picture: I am doing something wrong...
Both working this issue together....
Degree to that you can work...

I am here for you...
I am loving you.

This behavior....
triggers I am not O.K. the way I am...

I am mirroring this for you to look at....
We go back and forth...
reactiving the core issues until we get down to the bottom.

More difficult when in relationship with
someone who does not understand this terminology...

Relationship: powerful tool for awakening.

partner being welling to accept responsibility...

Some...have made it to profound levels...

easier when with someone you can make the changes with...

Sometimes, easier to be alone....
every time they get in relationship they see too much of themselves.

Don't settle to be with someone who is not awake.

being in relationship, pushes the issues the forefront,
and allows you to work on them faster...

working through issues...

All relative to you...

What do you desire within you.

SOme say it is much easier to

NO where to hide....

choose to be really open....
Make it an easier trip, if with someone who
will have compassion for your....

Eventually want to gravitate...to relationship...
but easy to lose your self....

with partner....doing things differently...

in the hotpot...the fire range....
relationship more awesome...becasue we take it from
a responsible place.

Creating a unified field in a relationship...
that can create the safety...

We work through our issues...
we communicate...

When same desire at its core....
embellishment ...

if we are in a position...

working together as a team....
also working as individuals....

Bringing issues to the forefront...

raising of vibration...becomes a collective

safety, trust, critical...
when you are in relationship with anyone...
learn to speak from your heart...

Have a way a process....
visualize the words coming out from your heart....

communication not the edge...
the victim...those do not filter through the heart
the same way....

Filter the thoughts through the heart,
not the mind....
gift of compassion and kindness...
to each other.
so key...
treat partner speaking through the heart...
before you communicate....
as compassionate with another, you are being
compassionate with yourself.

keeps sweetness there....

partner becomes scapegoat...

When enemy in field with you...
you will feel defended....
unloved...

go beyond where the mind knows to go...

abrasive energies...

communicating...from heart...
to give you more of who you really are...

They will not change. If you want to see change,
you best work on you.

recognize...to the degree of judgement
and activiation, is directly related to how
much of that issue you have going on with you.

Allowing in the Love you were pushing away...

E: Being able to communicate like this,
is so powerful, opens us up to new levels
of ourself. You have been the most magnificient
mirror for me that I could imagine."

Letting your heart be open to those in your life.

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They have a Ranch outside of Portland...
Upcoming workshop....

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Speaking event....first world Puja Conference...
Seattle...November 3, Lift the Light...Gathering...

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Stop looking as if someone else is doing it to us.
Victim needs to go.

All relationships related to how you feel about you.


Relationship with a Romantic Partner... and Beyond

Tonight we are going to connect with one of the most powerful subjects of our lives.

Our relationship with those we love and live with hold a great deal of focus and can take a tremendous amount of energy for most to sustain. How many relationships have you had that started out so perfect, so passionate and so ideal just to watch them dwindle into a non-safe, stressed and controlling experience? What happened that you started as a fully bloomed flower and ended up as a wilted and withered weed?

This exciting, powerful and passionate area of our lives provides unlimited growth. It also opens avenues of expansion which can increase our joy or our suffering.

Join us to learn why we choose the partners we do and how to know if you have the basis for a successful and fulfilling Life with your Loved One.

If you desire to create a relationship, want to improve on the one you currently have or forgive one from your past, please bring your open mind and soft heart to an hour of power.

Here are a few topics we will discuss tonight:


* Why we seek and are drawn to romantic relationships

* The real purpose of relationship

* Mirror, Mirror on the Wall (Why we choose the specific partners that we do.)

* The difference between an asleep or awake relationship

* The myth of sex in a romantic relationship

* Why relationships end

* Attracting the relationship YOU desire

* Practical tools to maintain freshness, respect, love and growth in relationship

* How to determine if you are in a relationship that will last

* Forgiveness for past relationships...and Beyond!!


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HI Leslie

Thank you so much for your kind words and being so tuned in that you could "hear" what is being expressed.

May we keep you on our mailing list?

I am going to visit your website as it sounds like your work is beautiful and powerful.

Maybe you would like to consider coming to a retreat sometime. I would love to meet you.

Much Love,

E

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Links:


Robert Lee Camp,
creator of “The Book of Destiny”
and “Love Cards:”

May 14-07 Show with Joseph Malinak:
What would be a great relationship?

http://www.7thunders.com/FreeReading/Readings.php


Joseph Malinak
Ideal Relationships; Coaching for Love

http://www.idealrelationships.com/index.html


The Seven Love Cures:
Words that men need to know and women
want to hear

http://www.lesliegoldman.com/Worlds_Greatest_Lovers/id33.htm



Esateys and Rafael
Relationships and Beyond

http://www.esateys.com



Relationships and Beyond, July 3, 2003 Internet
Radio Show:

http://www.worldpuja.org/archives/2007-07-03/

Esatey and Raphael,
Your show--July 3-- today was life changing.
I am going to listen one more time.
I am decluttering and this is a treat
to have such incredible growth material
to hear!

love,
Leslie

Esateys and Rafael

http://www.esateys.com


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