Some Whine, Some rant, others can't stand it. Which way do you come to Wholeness?

Date:   7/12/2005 9:11:57 PM ( 19 y ago)

Enjoying making flower bouquets
in the Pacific College of Oriental Medicine kitchen,
I just connected with a student. She look tired.

We start a conversation.
She tells me that being a student here
in not her only job. She is a nurse practitioner at
the Grossmont Hospital. She works in the ER room.
She works about 30 hours a week.

We talk about the Jensen program:
8-8-8.

Eight hours for work.
Eight hours for recreation.
Eight hours for sleep.

I am miles from this balance.
So is she.

I tell her about the Feng Shui Conference coming up.

One of the classes I will be teaching is The Seven Love Cures.

She is in relationship.

I wonder how she gets rid of the stuff she picks up at the hospital
working under those intense conditions.

She tells me that lots of times she goes home and
it comes out on her husband.

She tells me she feels she needs to express herself.
Some times she complains. Some times she whines.

She tells me that sometimes he just can't hear.
He takes it in, and so they fight.

I told her to tell him it is therapy
If he sees it that way, he will have choice.
Better they both know each other's style.

I have a great teacher, a woman friend, who has taught me
great lessons about The Power of Whining.

I have noticed that over the years, she has definitely started
to whine less, not that I really minded giving her a chance to
say what she had to say to another human being.

In the early stages, I would hear her and then want to do something about it.
I wanted to FIX her.

She would yell at me.
She basically wanted to express.
She wanted to be heard.

She was not looking for advice.
She was not wanting me or anyone to tell her what to do.
She had had plenty of that.

Dr. Jensen taught that in China there are two things
you do not give without being asked: Salt an Advice.

Many times, I have gotten myself into trouble wanting
to give advice, when all that was being asked was just to listen.

As one of The Seven Love Cures goes,
"I am here to listen. I am your forever friend."
--from Soul Mates.

There are many people who hate Whiners.
They cannot tolerate complaints or people who complain.

I totally understand.

It likely takes them places they do not want to go inside themselves.
It brings down their energy.

I personally find that if I can move my fingers
when I am "down" writing, the energy shifts for me.
Sometimes it takes me a while to get though difficult life lessons.

I believe this is a good reason to Blog.

So many of us feel isolated.
We imagine we are in hiding and actually have something to hide.

We imagine that no one else has had the same issue.

Some of my greatest poems have come out of the depths of darkness.
Some MO is going down where the Soul is blocked from seeing the Light.

I believe and have felt the experience that the Soul is in hiding in the world
because people have not found the space or had the Gardening Tools
to unblock their buried feelings.

That is what Bradshaw's work about
"Healing the Shame that binds you is all about."

We have all been so deeply shamed and made to feel bad
as if there is something wrong with our feelings.

We have been made to feel bad because we opened,
and then were told do to it different, or grow up.

I personally never was able to be six. My father was always
telling me why are you crying, you are almost seven.
Seven year olds do not cry. I never got to be ten, I was almost
eleven and boys at eleven do not cry.

By the time I was 15, my body started to shut down.
I was already stuffing in so many places that I started to develop
what would later become arthritis.

I have a friend that rants. She screams. She yells in her car.
She reads something in the paper and then starts yelling.

My dad is the same. He wears his heart on his sleeve.
I have never seen someone who was so filled with so much compassion
for the world.

There are other people who have discovered other ways to
deal with feelings.

Jesus Wept. He felt his feelings, and yet as Jensen said,
it is the shortest line in the Bible.

He did it and got over it. Jensen did not believe in people
talking about their complaints. He always started his talks
by saying "I feel Wonderful!" Deep down, he was very difficult
man to live with and could get very mean. He had never worked this out.
The only side of him was incredibly loving and an inspiration to others.

He also had a little boy inside that never grew up.
He had a beautiful garden but he seldom went down into it for many months
at a time. I remember used the gimmick that I wanted to take his picture
to get him down toward the goat pen with me out at his Hidden Valley Health Ranch.

That was when I took those wonderful goat pictures of Jensen with his favorite
animals. Those photos were among his favorite.

There are so many ways to RE MEM BER our WHOLENESS.
There are some of us who write poems.

Eventually the poems get down into the body and speak from this place.

I once met a Rabbi who said that the purpose of a poet's life
is to have no more poems to write.

It is good to know where you stand.

IT is good to know what a loved one needs
and if you can give them what they need without hurting yourself or them.

We all carry impatience until we do not carry it anymore.

There is someplace we feel we have to go and get.

I am amazed to say, the Lady who used to Whine doesn't do it
that much anymore.
Yes, she still can whine, but she has developed many other
ways to express. Maybe much of what she had stuck inside has moved enough
for her to start freeing up what was buried.

One of my favorite mentors William Spear has a workshop
where he takes about 20-30 to a place where they pay near $3000.00
to get in touch with feelings. They hit phonebooks with a rubber hose.
It is a good use of old phonebooks. This is called bioenergetics by some.


I would say some of us have a lot of screaming to do.
I would imagine a lot of us would lose weight if we ever had a safe
place to do this letting go. There are a lot of diseases
that would simply disappear.
It is a beautiful world that we live in.
There are so many different ways to heal.

I find one of the best is allowing others to heal,
and looking deep inside at why we get so plugged in
when they do it their way and there way is not ours.

I encourage everyone to express fully from their guts
here on the Blogs of CureZone.

your eg





 

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