Here is a decent description of what love is.

Date:   4/2/2006 8:32:26 AM ( 18 y ago)

"Love is"



What is that yearning within the heart, that ache that turns love from
giving into a futile quest to get? What is that emptiness that you are
seeking to fill?

It can be filled, of course, by giving yourself love, by opening
yourself to the flow of endless love from the universe. But it can also be
filled by allowing the love which fills your heart for others to be a
great gift instead of a drama or the solution to a problem.

Love is. And if you are fortunate enough to love someone else, then
allow that love to be a gift to you, a gift that fills you, whether or
not the love you feel for another is returned in ways you wished it would
be.

There is a great difference between the fulfillment of lustful or
romantic fantasies and the reality that is love. Love is something quite
different, but yet intertwined, and so it can be difficult to
differentiate. But the romantic fantasy is focused on the future, not on what is
right now, and ultimately leads to disappointment as the object of your
fantasy is unable to create the world you had desired, a world in which
you are coveted and admired, a world in which every deep desire of
yours for love and attention is fulfilled. This is not a world of real
relationships, once the potent mix of drugs which we call 'falling in
love' has worn off.

I wish to focus instead on another kind of love, a love which is very
similar to that which you feel for a child or a very close friend for
whom you wish nothing but the best and with whom you are not involved in
a drama of getting. For much of the drama in your life revolving
around romantic love relationships is simply that: your frustrated desires
to get something that you felt was lacking, something that you felt
that this person promised you by way of the relationship.

What if you were to release this? What if you were to allow the other
person to be and not to have expectations that they would fulfill a
need of yours? What if you were to fulfill your own needs through your
connection to spirit and through your actions in this physical world, and
allow this other person to be someone who can live a parallel life,
giving you both the great comfort of a partnership, yet a great deal of
freedom as well, as interests or circumstances send you in other
directions for a time?

And even if you love someone who does not appear to return your love, I
wish you to look at it in different ways. First, separate out your
romantic fantasies and desire to have this person fulfill a role and a
need in your life. Without that, do you truly love? Is this a person
that you care to give love to without requiring any in return? For that
is love, that is the love you extend to others from a
full-to-overflowing heart.

The drama of your relationships is normally the result of trying to get
from someone else what they cannot possibly give, which is to fulfill
you, to make you whole. This is your job and not the job of anyone
else. And if you seek this from another, if you give them a part of
yourself and spend the rest of your relationship asking them to give back to
you, you have made a poor bargain. And often it is a bargain that they
did not willingly make, to take on the burden of a love with so many
conditions.

When you give, give. When you love, love. And realize that a heart
full of love is a wondrous thing, especially when it is not tainted with
jealousy and grasping neediness. It is a wondrous thing, when you can
truly care for another and want only the best for him or her, without
requiring anything specific in return. This does not mean that you are
suppressing your true feelings, manipulating behind the scenes, or
crying your eyes out in private. All of that is a part of the drama of
neediness and yearning.

Love is. Love fills your heart with gladness when the loved one is in
your presence, and yet has the grace to let go after parting. Love
such as this is something that you have not been taught, certainly not in
the movies and magazines. It is a lofty goal, to learn to love in this
way, in a way in which you are giving, but yet also giving to yourself,
for you realize that a heart full of love is a great gift to both of
you. Silent and giving, full of golden energy that glows outward from a
warm and pliable heart, this is love. Embracing in its warmth, but not
seeking more than it is, this is love. A spark it the eyes, a heart of
gladness, a lilting voice of greeting, these are signs of a love
without strings and attachments, a love without jealousy and neediness, a
love which seeks to flow, not grasp.

This is a new way to love, and is something which may be difficult to
achieve at first. But it is a goal worth pursuing, to learn to care for
others in this way. And if the loved one moves on, that is all right.
You are in a world full of people you may love. For when you are truly
giving love and not seeking to get anything specific in return, when
you are glowing with love and not living a romantic fantasy, everyone is
glad to receive your love. Everyone is glad to be in the presence of
your warm and glowing caring. And the glow which is returned to you is
many times the energy which you pour forth in your flowing, selfless,
generous love.

Here is a little prayer for today

I open my heart wide and let the light pour in. I remove all the
stones of unforgiveness and lift from my heart any burdens of expectation.
I care. I love. I generate love from within, so that I glow with love
and caring.

I am a shining light of love, and my glow is so great that all who
enter into my circle can feel its warmth.

I cherish the love I feel for others, for it warms me as well. I
cherish each person I love, for they give me even more love to gladden my
life and soften my heart.

Every time I love, every time I give love selflessly, my soft and
pliable heart grows stronger and more pure.

I am love. I am.


~Daily Quado~

 

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