Here is some straight up advice in dealing with disruptive and negative entities.

Date:   3/29/2006 12:29:02 AM ( 18 y ago)

Sweetening A Sour Fruit
When A Bad Apple Spoils The Bunch


Because life requires that we interact with different
personalities, it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where
there is one person whose behavior may negatively impact the
experiences of others. Someone who is loud and crass can interrupt the serenity
of those who come together to practice peace. A disruptive worker can
cause rules to be imposed that affect their colleagues' professional
lives. A team member who is pessimistic or highly critical may destroy the
morale of their fellow members. And one or more "bad apples" in your personal
life can be a potent distraction that makes it difficult to focus on the
blessings you've been given and the people who love you.

There may always be people in your life who take it
upon themselves to create disruption, foster chaos, stamp out hope, and
act as if they are above reproach - even when, in doing so, they put a
blight on their own experiences. But you don't need to allow their
negativity and callousness to sour your good mood. Often, our first impulse
upon coming head-to-head with a bad apple is to express our anger and
frustration in no uncertain terms. However, bad apples only have the
power to turn our lives sour if we let them.

If you can exercise patience and choose not to
respond to their words or actions, you will significantly limit the effect
they are able to have on you and your environment. You can also attempt
to encourage a bad apple to change their behavior by letting your good
behavior stand as an example. If your bad apple is simply hoping to
attract notice, they may come to realize that receiving positive attention
is much more satisfying than making a negative impression. While you
may be tempted to simply disassociate yourself entirely from a bad apple,
consider why they might be inclined to cause disturbances.
Understanding their motivation can help you see that bad apples are not necessarily
bad people. Though bad apples are a fact of life, minimizing the impact
you allow them to have upon you is empowering because you are not
letting anyone else affect the quality of your experiences. You may discover
that buried at the very heart of a bad apple is a seed of goodness.


 

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