"Struggle is a choice. It is your right and responsibility to choose. As shown in my dream, whenever you decide to look for another path, there is always someone there to show you the way."

Date:   1/16/2006 11:08:19 PM ( 18 y ago)

LETTING GO OF STRUGGLE
Marty Varnadoe Dow


Because the belief in struggle is so strong in our world, I wanted
to share with you a dream I had which helped me to realize struggle was
a choice. At the time I had this dream, I was in a great deal of
emotional pain. I, like most people, believed I needed to suffer in order to
grow. The dream did not change my outside circumstances, but it helped
me see my life in a new way.

In my dream, I was in a room with many other people. In the
process of moving across the room, we had to crawl through a tunnel filled
with bees. It was impossible to accomplish our journey without being
stung several times. After I had completed a pass through the first tunnel,
I came to a resting place. The people here were recovering from their
bites while preparing to enter a second tunnel.

Although I wanted to complete my journey, I was not eager to go
through the same painful experience again. I looked around the room and I
noticed a man standing by a door. I approached him, asking if there was
another way to travel without all the suffering. He smiled at me and
said, "Yes, you can go through here." He opened the door into a
beautiful garden. I completed my journey by following the path through the
garden, enjoying the sun light and beauty all around me.

As I reviewed this dream, I realized most of us go through life
experiencing the pain and struggle of life, never looking for any
alternatives. The people in my dream assumed there was only one way to
accomplish the task before them. When I got tired of being bitten, I decided
to look for another route. The man at the door was not blocking the way
nor hiding its presence. He was there to assist anyone who asked for
help. When I decided to let go of the struggle, my journey became one of
joy and beauty.

Over the years, I have shared this dream with many people. Most
people are shocked at the idea that struggle is a choice. It is not a
concept they have ever entertained. Their experience of life has taught
them to expect to struggle. For some, it is a pleasant relief to release
this old concept. Others are not ready to make such a drastic change in
perspective.

Struggle is a choice. It is your right and responsibility to
choose. As shown in my dream, whenever you decide to look for another path,
there is always someone there to show you the way.

Letting go of struggle does not mean I will never again run into
obstacles in my life. Challenges still present themselves to me. It is
my perspective that has changed. I see these events as opportunities to
watch as the power of God is demonstrated in my life.

Every problem contains its own solution. I may not know how things
will be resolved, but I am sure a solution will appear. I can now flow
with the circumstances in my life, trusting that the answer will soon
be revealed. This perspective creates a feeling of peace and joyous
anticipation.

Without trust, I resist those difficult situations, creating a
feeling of struggle. The feelings and thoughts of fear create more chaos
and pain. I may not be able to choose every event that appears in my
life, but I can always choose how I will view those situations.

Marty Varnadoe Dow, LCSW

Excerpted from How To Soar Above the Crisis: a complete system for
using crisis as a catalyst for spiritual transformation.

 

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