If we do work out, I will not tell him when I’m trying to get pregnant again. I’ll just do it and leave him to deal with the fallout after-the-fact. That’s the way most black men get it sprung on them anyhow.

*** DANGER WILL ROBINSON!!! DANGER!!! Where I lived, you know what most black men do when women do that? THEY LEAVE. Although you aren't married, you can have a close relationship built on TRUST and HONESTY. I'm telling you this as a friend because I'm reading your blog and when someone is desperate, they do STUPID desperate things. Don't lie to your man. I used to work in a store where a lot of the bruthas would complain that their women are liars, don't respect them,etc. You don't want to be one of them do you???