I'm not bitter. I've already forgiven the person. I AM making a judgment because his promiscuity exposed me (a virgin when we had sex) to a potentially harmful virus. It IS my body after all. Listen my friend making a judgment does not necessarily mean being mean and condemning. 'Safer' sexuality also means being monogamous and faithful to your partner. I guess if someone does not line up with your approach to herpes then we're not part of the community. Whatever. Everyone has their approach and I have mine. Have a good day.