Yes I understand that we all would like the answer yesterday,  but if it took all these years to get to where you are then it may take some time...  That out of the way you need to put together your background, and do in in chronological order...

Then try to sort out the various items and group them as need as possible to get a better picture of what has happened , when and why...  Once you have some shart or outline then you should be able to see some patterns or trends...

If you can get this far stop back by any of my blogs or my web site @ http://www.simplytruth.com... and we will review your situation and try to help you make some progress...  We seek the truth, like it or not!!

See YA... Kermit