Oh well that's different. I hate being controlled by people in that way. Every family has a controlling personality and the control doesn't have to be in a direct way. I'll never understand why some need to be so smothering. I think such people have major issues in their lives and they find one thing they can control. If you had posted this piece earlier I would have said that the rest of the family SHOULD NOT go along. if you go along with what these people say, the behaviour only gets WORSE.