Fighting an outgrowth of feeling you cannot get your needs met without defending. We can help the world outgrow war by showing respect for each other. I had a lesson about this yesterday.

Date:   9/15/2005 7:43:57 AM ( 19 y ago)

I had a lovely interaction yesterday
with my best friend.
I got in one of my "I see this"
EG MODES where I can have a tendency
to SOUND BOSSY as if I am telling her
what to do.

I really did not mean to sound bossy
but I totally understood and appreciated
how it felt to hear a laundry list for Your EG
of what I thought would be Seed Dreams
for her to do.

She said she felt very tight in her body
from gut to throat hearing me talk.
She told me she was into a natural unfoldment
and liked to do things one step at a time.
Her way was so much more feminine.
I really appreciated that she expressed herself.
I learned so very much from her telling
me how it was for her, and using "I" statements.

Then she helped me by sharing
that it would be easier to take if
would say something like

"I have a thought....I can see an ....
(Seed Dream goes here!). What DO YOU THINK?"

Asking, inviting...being respectful to the other person...
this is really high on the List of "Your Enchanted Gardener's
One Million and One Ways
to Make Love," some chapters that will go in The
Seven Love Cures book.

At one point, my best friend felt she had to defend herself
and raised her voice a bit. I had nothing to defend.
She was absolutely right. I completely appreciated how
it felt for her to hear my Laundry list.

I am a natural born visionary.
Once a friend said,
"You may have the power, but you do not have the right!"

He was talking about respect.

Jensen said, "There is a Chinese saying.
There are two things you do not
give unless asked, "Salt and Advice."

Fighting and it's extreme kissing cousin called War
are basically the outgrowth of emotional immaturity.
I am convinced that it is possible to have non-violent
communication. When you really stop and think
about it, killing people to get our needs met
doesn't seem very nice.

War is a kid thing.
IT starts with children not understanding
how to get their needs met without disrespecting each other.

For some masterful ways to help kids
gain emotional maturity, I would like to recommend
Peter Yarrow's site here and signing up
to watch the "Don't Laugh at me!" video.

http://curezone.com/blogs/m.asp?f=92&i=772

"Make Love Not War," says Spirit Guide John
Imagine that....In the 60's we would have
what we called "Love In's.

At the Whole Being Weekend Closing Ceremony
Scott Kalechstein was improving from the tune
"Let the Love in" from "Hair."..the musical about this
Age of Aquarius of the 60's

Aquarius is a water sign...by the way...
hmm....

your eg

 

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