The truth behind the "Second Agreement" - that everything others say is all about them! (2nd Post)

Date:   11/25/2015 8:49:10 AM ( 9 y ago)

What a gift it is to be able to see through the outer surfaces! I came to this appreciation tonight shortly after I was hearing another reporting their experience to a third party (possibly with sympathetic ears). I was truly grateful to realize a couple things.

I was not at all a "party" to any of the content of the experience being reported and therefore not "invested" in their story one way or another. When they eventually mentioned their idea to write to a fourth party with whom they had experienced an apparently confrontive communication I thought silently to myself "yes - write and communicate!"

After the "report" was communicated between these other two individuals in the same space as I was working I naturally and organically reflected on what I had heard and quickly realized that the speaker's challenge was by-and-large their very own "insecurities"! One "insecurity" that became apparent to me was clearly an element of internalized blame - indicated by what amounted to as their defense plea that essentially communicated (IMO): "I'm innocent!" Another insecurity was also an element of self-devaluation along with a load of anger stacked on top of that.

Now I'm also grateful, once again, for "The Four Agreements" as reprogramming tools that I continue to use to completely de-condition the "internalized blame" and other such memes that have stemmed from what Ruiz calls the "Book of Law" that each of us inherit during our domestication. The most obviously applicable of those "Four" is "Don't Take Anything Personally". Also pertinent in this instance is "Be Impeccable With Your Word".

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January 7th, 2016 -

More direct observations this evening (similar to the above) that I feel are at least noteworthy here.

I now realize that I carry two perspectives simultaneously. The one is regarding my environment and includes other individuals. The other perspective is subjective and includes my own internal thoughts, feelings and emotions. I also realize that I am committed to keeping the peace within myself as a priority over acting upon my environment with other individuals and especially during what sounds to me like upsets by others being vented about other individuals. My priority became known to others when the party with their upset referred to me for possible input to which I immediately realized that I have nothing to say and "kept my peace"![1]

It is interesting to me that just before the party with the upset walked in, another individual and I were in conversation about how to keep the peace when in the face of another and their way of acting that has had a disturbing impact on others. As I reflect on that now I am so grateful that the order of the U-n-i-Verse was such that I got to focus on how I keep my peace by sharing that with this other individual and that by communicating this I (unknowingly) had prepared myself for the entrance of the second individual who walked in with their upset.

All of "The Four Agreements" deserve credit once again this evening. (Being impeccable with your word, not taking what others say/do personally, not making any assumptions and always doing your best"!) These agreements continue de-conditioning me from fear-based behavior that is rooted in fear-based beliefs about others.

I give credit to "A Course In Miracles" especially for my communication with the Holy Spirit in "The Holy Instant".

I give additional credit to the "I AM" teachings and that we can call upon the "I AM" presence of others and offer them the peace of their I AM presence.

In conclusion - I see both of my perspectives running simultaneously with me and that my most immediate responsibility is to my self! The "story" of another that unfolded after my one-to-one communication only underscored for me the right order of perspective that I was declaring!

Keep The Peace!
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Later: "When one illuminates the hidden face of our own Psychological Moon it is possible to know one's own errors; only then is it possible to see our fellow man correctly.

However, when one does not illuminate that hidden part of oneself with the Consciousness, one mistakenly projects[3] all of one's psychological defects on others." - Our own Psychological Moon by Samael Aun Weor[2]

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April 11th -

A "fellow gardener" sent me the list that follows to support my ability to recognize verbal abuse. It was helpful and I am grateful. (I have no idea whether my written response will support the personal transformation that is sorely needed!) I can't help but recognize that "The Four Agreements" would give the individual/victim who is apparently suffering from "verbal abuse" an "ounce of prevention" that could have saved them many pounds of "cure".

"Don't Take Anything Personally"! (It makes for a much shorter list than the following ; ~ )

Verbal abuse includes the following types of behaviors:

- abusive anger
- accusing and blaming
- blocking and diverting
- countering
- damnation
- denial of anger or abuse
- judging and criticizing
- minimization, discounting, trivializing
- name calling
- ordering
- undermining
- threatening
- withholding
- Character attacks
- Competence attacks
- Physical appearance attacks
- Self-concept attacks
- Intentionally vague or ambiguous yet implicit threats
- Insults
- Malediction
- Scolding
- Teasing
- Mockery
- Verbal use of force
- Profanity

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Notes:

[1] I can refer to my Human Design Throat Center with its one and only activation at Gate 12. "Gate 12 – Caution – Standstill – This energy is like a door that is either open or shut to having an experience.":

http://loveyourhumandesign.com/recent-recorded-shows/

I was definitely was not open to having a "shared experience" with another and their upset.

[2] Quoted in the "Kabbalah of Genesis, a Free Online Course":

http://gnosticteachings.org/courses/kabbalah-of-genesis/647-the-tower-of-babel-1.html

[3] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection

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plea, Looking through a glass onion, story, communication, self blame, innocence, self-devaluation, anger, The Four Agreements, reprogramming tools, de-condition, Book of Law, domestication, Don't Take Anything Personally, Be Impeccable With Your Word, projection

 

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