Our positive energy rubs off on others

Date:   6/30/2008 11:03:09 AM ( 16 y ago)

Creating Positive Energy


We are social creatures, us humans. We have a deep need for others to know how we are doing. Gossip serves that purpose in a way - we also HAVE to know about others. Knowing how others are feeling and telling how we are feeling is a form of protection too, and as such it may have helped us survive in the evolutionary sense - for example when we are in pain it can be a life-or-death difference to have someone know that. Also, it is a great comfort for us to know that others know we are in pain.

Complaining, however, is taken way too far. I suspect the predilection for complaining has been with us for a long time, and is not just a recent phenomenon to do with the sad state of world and local affairs. There is an awareness challenge going around that asks us to go 21 straight days without complaining, and it is showing people how often we really do complain. Just the other day I cheerfully asked my neighbor, on a chance encounter, "how are you doing?" and she starts in with complaints about the landlord, the weather, etc etc. I was dragged along in her powerfull wake of negativity and, as a social creature myself, I started to agree and even expand on the landlord's failures to make our lives beautiful.

Instead of the negative, we can make an effort to increase the positive feelings in the people around us. A smile alone will do that to some degree. Walking upright and not slouching is another way of communicating positive feelings - I am certain that the way people walk is an effort to communicate - sometimes you can really see it plainly. Mostly, it is just a matter of what you are thinking about, your conscious effort to portray a positive mindset.

Beyond body language, when we get the chance to talk to others, we can have an even bigger effect. With idle chat, like with my chance meetings with my neighbor, I try to talk about "what a nice day" if it is nice out, and if it is ugly out then I avoid talking about the weather - there are good things going on, such as "my garden is getting better every day" [and the rain is what it needs!] ; "those were really inspirational pictures you sent me in that email" ; "I am going to visit my grandchildren in two weeks". FIND something positive to say.

And then beyond those ways of creating positive energy, which really does rub off on others, there is the way we conduct our business and life's affairs. If we try to find ways of doing things where everybody comes out ahead, instead of taking advantage of a situation and exploiting it so that only we come out ahead, then those people will try to pay you back and things go better in the long run. You will not get ripped off as much if you look out for other's interests.

Getting back to where we are strolling down the street, I just want to point out that our "positive vibrations" can sometimes raise a positive feeling in someone else and we don't ever know about it, but that if just one person picks up on your upright walk and your smile and your friendly bob of the head, they might start doing it too, and then others pick up on that. I read about a survey that someone did: they wrote down how many negative and how many positive people they saw on the street, judging by their walk and their scowl or their smile, and then they walked up and down that same street a few times with a positive and friendly attitude and did the survey again.... you guessed it - the numbers changed from 70% negative to 70% positive. That was the effect of just one person trying to change the world by wearing a smile and walking upright... the only reason it didn't catch on to the point where we are all doing that every day now is because people are not aware that it can happen. Now you know [and there is no excuse!].


 

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