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Date:   5/13/2012 11:23:26 AM ( 12 y ago)

Made mini blueberry muffin loaves before work this morning. Taking a 'what can I bring to this day?' attitude. People enjoyed them.

A person's wife asked me if I was married. "No. Why do you ask?" She then asks me if I have children. No, again. I then smile and continue on my task, grateful her husband asked a question that deflected the attention from her inquiry. Don't want to talk about my late boy or my divorce today to strangers, I was thinking - thankyouverymuch.

She grabs me by the arm in the hall and pulls me close to her. It's okay she says. I know what it's like. My sister is gay. Her husband told her after I left that I was, she said. She just didn't know.

*sigh* OFCS. Really? Gay? Not married, no kids. So, the girl must be gay. *sigh again*

(Personal note: It is not my business who anyone is sexually attracted to as long as that person is 18 years of age or older.)

I let her know I was not gay and thanked her for her consideration. I walked away.

I advised to the gentleman when we were alone I am not gay and that I chose not to discuss his wife's earlier inquiries due to my losing my son in an accident and my husband divorcing me shortly after. (He asked for a divorce 7 weeks after my son died, I finally gave it to him 2½ years later.)

The man then said he heard me saying it the night before. OFCS - beyond stupid. He also said his sister-in-law was married with a child then divorces and is now gay.

And your point would be?

I left that person feeling a little bit better about who I am today. He could not wrap his head around the concept of me as a Mother without her child on Mother's Day or a woman dumped by her husband. My pain just doesn't exist in his head on any level. It is all about him, of course. He could only protect his ego through deflection and be 'right'.

I feel a lot better about me today.

He's not reason enough to be bitter and neither is my ex-husband. I still believe in marriage and I still wish to find a man with whom I can grow into the role of best friend with and even marry one day. Not too big of a dream. There are billions of men in this world. So this blog refers to two of the less desirable ones on the planet. They cannot possibly be representative of all men. I refuse to believe it.

I believe in love, marriage, new life at any age. It doesn't matter what the sex of the participants are. I happen to be attracted to men.

 

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