Date:   7/14/2006 12:55:05 AM ( 18 y ago)
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Speaking of pests. It is a shame there is not an exterminator for those of us with relatives we would rather do without. I have been trapped into a Sunday brunch with several of them; I think they are afraid there may be a scene so my sister in law has invited several guests. I am thinking of declining on the invitation. I had enough last week at the wedding of my niece. We were place at the last table by the exit with the second cousins even though we are the aunt and uncle. They wanted to make sure we were separated from my husband's parents.

I just had some dental surgery. I can't eat and I may if the medication wears off say what I am thinking and feeling if I go to this Sunday brunch. That might be fun I could blame it on the pain killers. My husband told me I must go and it would look bad if I don't. After 26 years I finally had the sense to tell him this is his family and he should go and deal with them;he can't always hide behind me.I have been trapped into going to so many things like this and company dinners. The wife is expected to come. This is his father and his step-mother. I think he should begin by asking his father why he never invited him to his wedding. Why his second wife has made all the decisions and runs the household? She does not allow him to talk to anyone on the phone. My husband and his father have spoken maybe twice in the last 25 years. There seems to be no cure for them. Now that they are in their 80's and feeling weak they want to communicate with us or so they say. The phone has never rung even though they have been in New York City for the past 2 weeks only a few miles from us.

I would be willing to take the mother-in-law out for a walk and have a serious chat if I thought something would come of it, while these two men are alone together, but that won't happen. These men are exactly the same and neither of them talk.

I am thinking of following my advice I gave you about plastic clear bags; those might work also. Exterminators take away the pests. Garbage men take away our garbage. Who takes away all this mental crap? Not even green tea can do this. I have been trying to shrug it off for years, but it makes no sense why these people choose to love only two of their six grandchildren. I can take the rejection but as a mother I can't take their flimsy excuses for not loving their own granchildren.
 

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