Re: Horror Story! by Dazzle

Re: Horror Story! by Dazzle .....

Date: 2/1/2006 10:22:32 AM ( 18 y ago)
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URL: http://www.curezone.org/blogs/c/fm.asp?i=992752

I agree, the p 0 r n industry is similar to the prostitution industry, just glamorized (and this makes it seem appealing to, dare I say, dysfunctional youth). And, I believe the foundation for the choices these p 0 r n actors make is rooted deeply in childhood, via parents, adult relatives and our dysfunctional society. (I have a feeling I am going to be using the term dysfunctional often, in this comment...)

I've always felt young girls who give away their sexuality through seeming careless promiscuity are really searching for acceptance, a sense of belonging, that they believe eludes them. For example, I knew a young girl who would perform oral sex with boys so she could get a cool ride to school. This wasn't about love, per se... it was about feeling accepted, needing to belong to people she deemed as the right crowd. It's not so much about feeling a lack of love as it is about the need to feel accepted, needing to believe they belong somewhere.

Young girls who are recruited by pimps, I believe, have similar issues, in addition to the probability that the parents also live a dysfunctional lifestyle. It's reasonable to assume that not every young prostitute or every p 0 r n actor came from parents who did not love them, I'm sure most of the parents love their children.

The parents and relatives of these children are more caught up in their own dysfunctional lives and issues that came from their own dysfunctional childhoods in turn. Almost like a family curse. It is well known that abused children become an abuser in turn is highly probable, for example. Children of prositutes become prostitutes themselves.

And of course, there is our society. On the one hand, my generation made FREE LOVE a national chant. Our society flaunts sexuality via scantily clad females (and males) on billboards, public television, between the pages of magazines, in blazing neon atop strip clubs and so on... yet on the flip side sex is treated as a precious treasure a female must keep pure until she marries, even though it is accepted that men don't need to do this. Then there's the underlying hush hush we don't talk about sex and on many levels of our society sex is considered taboo, nasty, sinful, especially if it is a female who is engaging in the act of sex. Just think of all the names our society has for females who use sex, have sex, want sex, sell sex and like sex. The disrespectful names given to our sexua| body parts. These are extremely conflicting messages. Our society uses sex to buy, sell, and trade. Dirty, nasty, taboo sex sells after all. As long as there is a demand, there will be a supply.

'Tis my opinion, these are the conflicting messages our children are receiving from parents, adult relatives and society in general. And those children who feel a lack of acceptance and a sense of belonging are the ones who are the most susceptible to the prostitution and p 0 r n industries.

I wonder, has there ever been a time in human history where sex was perceived merely as an act of giving and receiving love, however simple and complex, and as procreation between man and woman?

Hmmm... You know, I was pretty sure when I began this comment, that I had not brought my soap box with me. <looking around sheepishly> Well, I'll step down now.

Thanks for listening.

~ Dazzle

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