that shows you how far you have come- looking after yourself also means making sure you dont let other people treat you badly. i learnt this lesson a long time ago with a very very close friend. she went thru an awful marriage break up and i got stuck in the middle. anyway i had to take a break and just removed myself. i felt like i had lost a wonderful friend but the damage it was doign to me was not worth it. good news is now 3 years down the track we are friends again. we have never talked about it and i dont think it is necessary. i hope for you that you can one day you will have your friend back but right now the break is the best thing for you adn your partner. i wish you much love and happiness.